1. What does cupcake mean?

A young female who seeks favor with powerful men

A cupcake is a young female who seeks favor with powerful men. The female fawns over these powerful men, listening intently to every word of theirs, and almost worshipping their very being.

Cupcakes are typically younger women who get caught up with the allure of a man who has power in some way, whether it be money or respect from others. These young women are seen as rewards by powerful men, treats for their accomplishments in their respective fields. This idea of a treat is where the name "cupcake" comes from. The term gained exposure as part of the #MeToo social media movement that brought to light sexual harassment stories among women and men. The term is mentioned in the "Five Women" (March 2, 2018) podcast featured on This American Life.


"Look at all those cupcakes hanging on his every word."
"And he can't get enough of their attention."

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Last Updated: March 12, 2018

2. What is a cupcake?

A gay man

Cupcake is a derogatory term typically used to label a male person as gay. It is most often used by heterosexual people and is considered offensive by the LGBTQ community.

What are the origins of the cupcake term?

It is unclear who coined the term, but it has been used since the 1990s to tease guys about their sexuality or ridicule how they are acting. "Cupcake" primarily comes from the frilly properties of a cupcake dessert that are similar to a guy who has effeminate qualities that indicate that he may be gay.

Who uses the cupcake term?

The term is primarily used by heterosexuals, usually older men. They may mean it as a harmless jab at other heterosexual men who show interest in things they deem as "gay," like crying, sharing their feelings, or not wanting to play sports. Others may use it to tear down others they know are gay and intend to cause psychological harm to them.


"Did you see what he was wearing last night?"
"Yeah, he's such a cupcake."

Wanting to look fabulous may be perceived as a cupcake quality

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Last Updated: April 12, 2021

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